When a couple seeks help for dealing with the impact of pornography or other forms of sexual addiction, frequently the wife will say something like this:

"I feel so isolated.   He has his 12 step group, his therapist, his church leader to support and assist him.   I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this.   I don't want to embarrass him - and I don't want to embarrass myself.   So I don't talk to anyone.  But I don't know how to deal with all this pain alone.  Are there resources out there to help me?"

For a long time, the answer to that question was no.   The major effort tended to go into helping the addict heal.  Only recently has it been recognized that spouses carry their own weight of pain, and need their own supports to help them recover and rebuild. 

The resources on this page were gathered and created to help those who bear the pain of a spouse's sexual addiction.   You are not alone!  And your own growth and recovery can do much to hasten his.  Browse these materials, and be assured that there are resources for you, as well as for him, and that as you work together through this, your relationship can become stronger than ever.